You like somebody. You get to know them, and you decide you’re compatible. This takes a different amount of time for everyone, but it’s usually not years. Then come the good days. You finish each other’s sentences. One might give you various Relationship advice, but it is you to decide which to apply in yours.
Then one day, you wake up, and the infatuation is gone. You look at the person lying next to you, and you don’t feel butterflies. One doesn’t want to jump their bones. You’d kind of like a day or two to yourself. And you pull away. You wonder if maybe you’re not compatible, after all. You notice the way he always leaves his shoes right in the doorway, and you’ve tripped over them eighty-five times. Or how she sometimes puts garbage on the counter above the garbage can.
Relationship Advice For The Lovers
About eight years ago, I met a nice gentleman. He was handsome, kind, and accepted me for me. We went out on a few dates, and I quickly became head over heels for him. We saw each other almost every day. We fell deeply in love, and we didn’t hide it. I was 23 years old.
A couple of months later, things took a turn. I will admit much of it was my fault. I had poor communication skills. I would ignore him for days when I was upset about something petty. I was selfish and took him for granted because I knew how much he wanted to be with me, and he was willing to put up with it all. until one day, he said: “we need to talk.” ( I would threaten to break up with him over silly things but never did).
Well, after eight months, he broke up with me. I remember him saying what hurts you genuinely hurts me. I was devastated and heartbroken. It took me almost 2.5 years to get over him.
How Did It Change Me As A Person?
I wanted to become a better person. I focused on areas where I needed help. It didn’t happen overnight. But I stopped being selfish. Moreover, I learned to compromise. Not values or morals but doing something because it would make the other person happy. I also stopped taking people or things for granted.
Every week I take time to write or say what I’m thankful for
Do you still remember him?
Of course, I still remember him, my 1st love, lol. Sometimes I reminisce because certain things remind me of him. We are not the best of friends, but we are cordial and hold nothing against one another.
- Be kind to everyone. It doesn’t cost anything to be excellent.
- Don’t take people for granted because you never know when they will be gone.
- If you are committed to someone, always give your best.
- Don’t stay angry at your partner. Talk things out. We all make mistakes, and it’s okay if you are wrong sometimes. Keep Fengshui decorative items to maintain peace at home.
- You can disagree, but Stop arguing over small/petty things! It only causes stress, and minutes later, it won’t matter.
- Love is more than a cute saying. It’s an action.